Dexistence is a digital collection of my thoughts, opinions and experiences as I journey though life. From personal life stories to professional insight, to random adventures and beyond. I hope you find something of value that urges you to make a positive impact in the immediate world around you.
I have been a son and brother for 37 years, a husband for 10 and a father for 6. Family is a really big deal to me. You can read more about that below. My wife and daughter are my favorites. They bring me so much joy they I just stare at them – though neither of them like it.
Over the past 19 years I have done what I have always wanted to do, build relationships. I love people like crazy. If we ever meet, I will most likely ask you your life story. Really knowing you makes a difference to me. There is much more to you than a face and a name.
As an entrepreneur, I am focused on revealing human potential. Since the age of 15, I have worked in several arenas — from bagging groceries to seating fans at Turner Field, to lawn and garden and children’s ministry. What an adventure. I am so grateful for the vast amount of exposure I have encountered. I have learned so much and continue to do so. Now I look forward to sharing my findings with you.
A BIT OF HISTORY
These two significantly helped to make me who I am – a very caring and compassionate man, that lives to invest in others. They are my grandparents – the legendary Wallace & Menona Nelms. Years ago, they birthed my mother. Soon afterwards, I came along. Now there are lots of details that happened between those events, but I will have to share that at another time. I have a huge family. Huge as in hundreds of people. As I investigate, there are more and more people that I have never met living just a few miles away. Both of my parents come from very big families. Growing up, I enjoyed spending time with everyone, especially the adults. I remember regular family reunions, summer vacations, Christmas parties and the list goes on.
I grew up in a unique neighborhood in North Decatur, Georgia. I was extremely blessed to live there. Every time I tell someone that I grew up with my grandparent’s house to the left and my cousin’s house to the right, they are blown away. It gets even better when I share that my uncle lives next to my grandparents and my aunt is next to him. To top it off, my great aunts lived across the street from my aunt and my other aunts lived just a short walk up the street. As a child, I didn’t realize that we were an anomaly in Atlanta, GA. Now, I understand how much of a blessing it was. It was that environment that taught me the value of family and the significance of people. Time and time again, people tell me that they are glad they don’t live that close to family. They say that they can only take being around their family for a brief time. I am the total opposite. I visit my family’s neighborhood as often as possible.
A few years ago, I began posting Notes on Facebook. When thoughts would come to mind while reading certain things, I would post my ideas on them. My goal was to inspire whomever happened to follow my feed. Little did I know that people actually read my Notes.
One day, a parent appraoched me and shared that he had been inspired by my Notes. I was shocked and encouraged. “Maybe other people are being touched by my posts,” I thought. Hence, the birth of dexistence.com. I had no idea what would become of it.
Soon after I started blogging, more and more people began to share with me that they liked my posts. Again, I was shocked. My posts were brief and to the point — not long articles like most blogs I had read. ‘Twas so cool that people actually read my posts. So I continued to write. And wouldn’t you know it, my posts became longer and longer.
When Orange caught wind of my website, they invited me to start writing for them. What an honor. I have always admired them for their dedication to families. Of course I was thrilled to contribute to their voice. I highly encourage you to check them out.
So the wiriting continues. Please drop a comment from time to time. I look forward to reading your thoughts.
I have been in church since I was in the womb. I am so grateful for my family exemplifying the importance of faith. I know that being The Church was a plan long before I arrived. I remember being at church several days of the week, year after year. Now, years later, I would not trade it for the world. I have learned so much over the years, but there are two truths that will forever mark me.
We are all fearfully and wonderfully made in the image of God.
We are beautifully flawed.
I love that I am made by and for God, and that my flaws will keep me dependent on Him. These truths are what help me to lead and mentor others.
A Few Favorite Quotes
“When you see how much time you have left, you tend to get serious about the time you have now.” -Reggie Joiner
“Your thinking, more than anything else, shapes the way you live. It’s really true that if you change your thinking, you can change your life.” -John C. Maxwell
“Technology is nothing. What’s important is that you have a faith in people, that they’re basically good and smart, and if you give them tools, they’ll do wonderful things with them.” -Steve Jobs
“There may be no single thing more important in our efforts to achieve meaningful work and fulfilling relationships than to learn to practice the art of communication.” -Max De Pree
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